When an Introvert becomes a missionary

The musings of an introvert …


As an introvert, life in ministry has been interesting and difficult at times. I have been told by different people throughout my life, especially as we prepared for moving to Romania, that I really need to be an extrovert to be a missionary. I was told that as an introvert I would not be successful.

I know that these people are right, in the sense that it can take more work for me to meet new people (and it helps to have an extroverted husband), but I also know that they are very wrong in their assumptions that God can not use me and my talents in the way that He has made me in ministry.

If you are an introvert, and someone has ever told you this, please trust God made you who you are.

Each person has their own challenges and strengths, extroverts and introverts.


I love having one-on-one conversations, and sometimes it takes a couple of times to really get to know me, but I love getting to the heart of things. The holiday season is hard for this introvert. Married to an extrovert who is energized by people, the holidays can be a great time to host people, but it is hard to find the balance between supporting my husband’s needs for “people time” and my needs for time alone.


Let’s not forget that there is also a language barrier that I must cross, which makes deep conversations all the more difficult. Moving to another culture has stretched me. I would even say I have become a little more introverted, but that is the from stress of culture and language and finding my voice here.


After 2 years, it is getting easier and I do not get tired so quickly.

In university, I took some counseling classes and I was able to audit a Self Care/Member Care class from Fuller, which have become secret passions of mine. I am constantly seeking how to feed myself (mentally, physically, spiritually) so that I can feed into others. We often hear “self care is being selfish,” or “taking time for yourself is weak,” or “if I am don’t do it, then who will.” These are lies that have penetrated the lives of missionaries, pastors, lay leaders, etc for far too long, and it is time that we encourage those in ministry around us to know what fills them up and give them space for it.

We have yet to find the perfect balance in our marriage and ministry, but I do know that I am not unsuccessful for taking time to take care of myself. I know that God gave me talents and placed me in my new home with a purpose. I know that my goal in life is to glorify God, in my own way.

3 thoughts on “When an Introvert becomes a missionary

  1. Kenneth

    Lauren great wisdom. Our pride fights against self care because we have to admit we are not invincible. I admire your bravery to go where you have never gone before, trusting God to sustain you. Love you. Dad

    1. Chris

      I’ve been a seasonal missionary in Mexico for 4 years. At first I felt compelled to involve myself with everything that was happening. It burned me out. Then I felt guilty if I took time out for myself. I finally learning to go at my own pace in my own way. I have to be on guard because I will isolate and then leaves me vulnerable as well as ineffective in the gospel.

      I prefer one on one but I still have a language barrier. I miss those deep conversations about the Lord or interesting subjects.

      God is good though. He gives me vision for my ministry and is patient while I learn to walk it out.

  2. Carol Carroll

    Lauren when God calls you into Ministry He will equip you for all your challenges. God does not call you and then leave you. God is always with you and will give you wisdom.We are so proud of you.
    Believing, Gangy

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